Why Masturbate?
Why Masturbate?
Why not go straight to using the Orgasm during intercourse?
Because you need the time alone to master the technique. If you’re
paying attention to your partner’s needs and responses the first few
times you use the O , you won’t be able to do the one thing you
must do—focus on yourself.
There are three key reasons to got orgasm with masturbation first:
1. While the Orgasm is simple and easy to use once you
have learned it, you will learn it better on your own.
When you are masturbating, you’re focused solely on your own
pleasure. No distractions. You have the same effective mind body
connection that men always have during masturbation and
lovemaking. Their external genitals give them an advantage in
reaching orgasm because they physically see their sexual arousal.
Women, however, can learn to do what men do naturally. Especially
if you only rarely reach orgasm, you need the private space where
this mind-body connection is solid to begin making orgasm happen
on a reliable basis.
2. You experience orgasm more intensely during masturbation
than during lovemaking.
Yes, that is true for women and men. Orgasm during masturbation
is a mainly physical event (with mental and emotional benefits).
In lovemaking—especially for women—it is a more complex physical,
emotional, and psychological event. That complexity inevitably makes
us experience the orgasm in a more diffuse way.
I am not denigrating the joys of partner sex and the orgasms found there.
But an orgasm experienced alone is not influenced by emotional connection. It
is pure, and it is all yours.
3. Masturbation is good for you.
And it’s not sex’s stepsister. It’s a vital part of your sex life. Hopefully,
you will be masturbating to the Orgasm even after you have taken it
out to partner play. Masturbating to orgasm aids cardiovascular health,
relieves tension, stimulates your imagination, keeps you sexually viable
during celibate periods, and can relieve depression and boost self-esteem.
And no matter what you heard from Mom, the church,
or backward gal pals, there is no credible evidence of mental or
physical ill effects from masturbation.
Female sexual empowerment is and long has been an intimidating concept in our society. And what
is more empowering than controlling your own orgasm?
Another big plus: masturbation takes the pressure off your
relationship. When your orgasm doesn’t depend on another, you
can relax and enjoy lovemaking.
Masturbation is absolutely necessary for a woman to learn how she becomes
aroused and reaches orgasm. And it is much more than that:
it is sexual empowerment of the kind that men are born into.
COMMON WAYS FEMALES MASTURBATE
the most common ways that women masturbate are:
• Stroking or rubbing the clitoris and surrounding area with a hand
and/or vibrator.
• Inserting fingers (or a vibrator) into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot,
the rough patch of skin partway up the vaginal canal. For more on
stimulating the G-spot, and other parts of her hot spots.
• Directing the flow of water to the genitals in the tub or shower.
• Lying face down on the bed, usually straddling a pillow, and rubbing
against the pillow or mattress.
• Standing up and rubbing against a hard surface, for example,
the corner of a dresser or nightstand.
• Crossing the legs tightly and clenching them together while flexing
the PC muscle.
Why not go straight to using the Orgasm during intercourse?
Because you need the time alone to master the technique. If you’re
paying attention to your partner’s needs and responses the first few
times you use the O , you won’t be able to do the one thing you
must do—focus on yourself.
There are three key reasons to got orgasm with masturbation first:
1. While the Orgasm is simple and easy to use once you
have learned it, you will learn it better on your own.
When you are masturbating, you’re focused solely on your own
pleasure. No distractions. You have the same effective mind body
connection that men always have during masturbation and
lovemaking. Their external genitals give them an advantage in
reaching orgasm because they physically see their sexual arousal.
Women, however, can learn to do what men do naturally. Especially
if you only rarely reach orgasm, you need the private space where
this mind-body connection is solid to begin making orgasm happen
on a reliable basis.
2. You experience orgasm more intensely during masturbation
than during lovemaking.
Yes, that is true for women and men. Orgasm during masturbation
is a mainly physical event (with mental and emotional benefits).
In lovemaking—especially for women—it is a more complex physical,
emotional, and psychological event. That complexity inevitably makes
us experience the orgasm in a more diffuse way.
I am not denigrating the joys of partner sex and the orgasms found there.
But an orgasm experienced alone is not influenced by emotional connection. It
is pure, and it is all yours.
3. Masturbation is good for you.
And it’s not sex’s stepsister. It’s a vital part of your sex life. Hopefully,
you will be masturbating to the Orgasm even after you have taken it
out to partner play. Masturbating to orgasm aids cardiovascular health,
relieves tension, stimulates your imagination, keeps you sexually viable
during celibate periods, and can relieve depression and boost self-esteem.
And no matter what you heard from Mom, the church,
or backward gal pals, there is no credible evidence of mental or
physical ill effects from masturbation.
Female sexual empowerment is and long has been an intimidating concept in our society. And what
is more empowering than controlling your own orgasm?
Another big plus: masturbation takes the pressure off your
relationship. When your orgasm doesn’t depend on another, you
can relax and enjoy lovemaking.
Masturbation is absolutely necessary for a woman to learn how she becomes
aroused and reaches orgasm. And it is much more than that:
it is sexual empowerment of the kind that men are born into.
COMMON WAYS FEMALES MASTURBATE
the most common ways that women masturbate are:
• Stroking or rubbing the clitoris and surrounding area with a hand
and/or vibrator.
• Inserting fingers (or a vibrator) into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot,
the rough patch of skin partway up the vaginal canal. For more on
stimulating the G-spot, and other parts of her hot spots.
• Directing the flow of water to the genitals in the tub or shower.
• Lying face down on the bed, usually straddling a pillow, and rubbing
against the pillow or mattress.
• Standing up and rubbing against a hard surface, for example,
the corner of a dresser or nightstand.
• Crossing the legs tightly and clenching them together while flexing
the PC muscle.
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