If all you're getting from Men is Cum in your holes... you need to find new men. I have NEVER left a woman unsatisfied (Sexually - LOL). And that's not a brag, because I'm nothing 'special' but I DO pay attention to her wants and needs first and sometimes exclusively! IT may be touching, the use of toys, ORALLY (My favorite way) or other means, but I don't want to finish if she hasn't first!