I hate foreplay

Reposted from Vickie P.'s blog:

I hate "foreplay."

Don't get me wrong: I love the acts usually comprehended by that term. When I'm bed with The Boyfriend, I am not overly hasty to get to the screwing part of the program.

I hate the word "foreplay." I hate the implication that all of those delicious acts are just a prelude to — and inferior to — intercourse, that "sex" means intercourse and everything else is not sex.

Here is my definition of "sex":

The entire gamut of intimate and loving human contact. It can involve genitalia, anuses, mouths, hands, and other organs. It is not limited to intercourse.

Some things to note about this:

* It has to be "intimate and loving." A gynecological exam is not sex. Assault is not sex.
* The genitalia or anus involved could be your own. Masturbation is sex.

All of the following are sex:

A hand on male genitalia
A finger (or hand) in an anus
A hand on or in female genitalia
A mouth on male genitalia
A mouth on an anus
A mouth on or in female genitalia
A sextoy on male genitalia
A sextoy on or in an anus
A sextoy on or in female genitalia
Female genitalia on female genitalia
Male genitalia on male genitalia
Male genitalia on female genitalia
A penis on or in an anus
A penis on or in a vagina

Notes:

* Male genitalia includes penis, balls — the whole package.
* Female genitalia includes vagina, vulva, labia, clitoris — the whole package.

Edited to add: breast/nipple sucking, fondling, etc. on both males and females — those acts are sex, too.

发布者 vickiep

8 年前

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redclay56 2 月前

Thank you, nicely articulated!

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vickiep 出版商 1 年前

至 FlintSteele : Hm-hmm.

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Yes - I agree, good sex often starts along time before the act of sex. I find the best sex starts with friendship. Intimacy begins with imtimacy

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vickiep 出版商 2 年前

至 roadrunner1959 : Thank you, sweetie.

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roadrunner1959 2 年前

Agree with what you've written

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vickiep 出版商 3 年前

Good man. I don’t know how you are at screwing, but if cunnilingus feels more intimate to you and gives the woman more pleasure, I think you're right to focus on that.

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austinjames2813 5 年前

至 vickiep : So i started here, but then hit enter or something, so copied and pasted to finish in a pm, then deleted the part here. Well lets just say pm very long very very long and just hit enter again (hate not having a computer at the moment) have a lot more to add ughhhh seriously i like to explain thoroughly so there aren't any or many questions. Its the whole honesty and openness i was taught. People will trust more if nothing left to question. Saying bear with my 'speech' writing this time and give me an idea on length and content for next one. Its just sometimes once i start writing like this because of your question, it leads to another locked door in my brain. Take yiur time with the pm, it will be in at least 2 parts ughhhh

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vickiep 出版商 5 年前

至 austinjames2813 : I’m not very knowledgeable about sounding and not sure how one would get a finger in a penis.

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austinjames2813 5 年前

Hummm, but tongues???? Okay i will assume you include that as part of the mouth. What about sextoys or finger (and i mean 1 finger, preferably the pinky) IN male genitalia; 'sounds' they can be s very effective toy. Used on, errrr in women as well.

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vickiep 出版商 5 年前

至 Athelstanscock : Ah, you get it!

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vickiep 出版商 5 年前

至 leslie14 : You go, too, sweetie.

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Athelstanscock 5 年前

I totally agree with you. Well said. Penetration is not the limit of sex. Sex is the whole gamut, as you say. It starts before anyone has been touched and it goes all the way through the afterglow. Anything sensual involving errogenous areas of the mind and body is sex.

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leslie14 5 年前

you go girl

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enigma3 5 年前

very well said

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msdsfist 6 年前

至 vickiep : She tells me she does. LOL

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vickiep 出版商 6 年前

至 msdsfist : I'll bet the woman involved loves it, too.

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vickiep 出版商 6 年前

至 msdsfist : Interesting. I've learned so much since writing this.

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msdsfist 6 年前

Sorry I forgot a very important thing that I love and that is prolonged oral service to a woman. Thanks again.

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msdsfist 6 年前

Ms. Vickiep, I must agree to all the above. Plus I love to caress feet and the crook behind your knees! Sometime a nice spanking both give and take is a fabulous thing. I agree with phillymark about a mans nipples, I love mine molested till they are a bit sore. Thanks for your posts. Mike

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vickiep 出版商 6 年前

至 phillymark1 : Thanks. A man with a talented mouth is a catch! I'm going to give my man's nipples some extra attention, knowing he will surely reciprocate.

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vickiep 出版商 6 年前

至 Adakcal : Omg, I love this. Couples should do what works for them.

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phillymark1 6 年前

An interesting comment about the "whole package" I on the other hand think that foreplay, including the nape of the neck, the palm of the hand, breast and nipple play and for my part oral stimulation of the entire body plays a significant part in building both partners to a toe curling climax. Don't forget that men have nipples too.

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I love this and agree completely. Plus, I really love that you included female on female and male on male, because ...why not. Thanks for sharing

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lildicktxn 6 年前

When you stop and think about it even having erotic thoughts about someone is a form of sex, kissing is one of the more intimate ways we show our partner we are in to them. We all know the the climax is the end result but the road we travel to get there is the thrill. Of course I do a lot of sight seeing on the way.

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robert_mcmurphy 6 年前

I totally agree with your assessment of the term 'foreplay'. Well said.

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n2oral 7 年前

You don’t mention breasts? Not part of sex? I can spend a long time enjoying the female form!

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Adakcal 7 年前

I have not had intercourse with my wife for about a decade. However we have had "sex" quite often. You are so correct.

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Six_gun 7 年前

至 vickiep : Thank you lovely. I will look forward to it with enthusiasm. I love what’s in, and would likely love much of what is in your sexual mind.

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vickiep 出版商 7 年前

至 Six_gun : Thinking outside the box is sexy, sweetie. I'm thinking about another post on this subject. I might call it “I hate intercourse.” <smile>

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Six_gun 7 年前

The older I become, the more interested I am in things other than “the ultimate, and final act.” Most especially mind games (sexual of course) if you will... That part of knowing, wondering, or thinking about the dirty mind of another is a huge stimulator. I could be extremely satisfied sexually with a woman with no or very, very little intercourse. I think about that kind of relationship quite a lot these days actually.

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