FRIENDSHIPS, FRIEND ZONE AND COOTIES..the saga
Yesterday I was on youtube and I pulled up a song from a group called HINDER called LIPS OF AN ANGEL. For those that have never heard the song, here's the video link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiSfTyrvJlg
basically its a song about a guy who broke up with a girl, he's got a new girlfriend now, the old ex calls and he's basically still heartbroken over her and feeling for her a little while the new girlfriend is in the next room.
I browsed the comments and one of the top comments was "no one wants to be the girl in the next room" (meaning the new girlfriend who has no clue her man is still in love with the old girlfriend) ...somewhere in the comments, someone also made the comment "no one wants to be in the dreaded friend zone either"
and that comment rubbed me all the wrong way.
It rubbed me wrong because, as a woman, I find it completely offensive that these days just being a normal friend is an awful thing and a simple meaningful platonic friendship is not enough. That "friendship" MUST include sex with those you call friends.
Isn't it awful and sad that a simple platonic friendship is so hated that a mean term has been created and tossed around to throw shade on it? FRIEND ZONE. OMFG...dont get friend zoned...ever..stay out of the friend zone. Its the modern version of the "cooties" that we knew as k**s..."don't get the cooties"...."don't get friend zoned" The friend zone is the new plague. Gotta avoid it. Only be friends with people who will fuck you at some point.
HOLY SHIT...WHERE DID ALL THE REAL PEOPLE WHO OFFER TRUE FRIENDSHIP GO???
WHY AND WHERE DID NORMAL FRIENDSHIP WARP INTO INCLUDED SEXUAL RELATIONS???
I am going to say something, and I want you readers to know this is coming strictly from a female point of view. I cannot and will not speak from a man's point of view and experiences you gentlemen might have had with women. As a woman, I can't tell you how being a woman means having to be CONSTANTLY on guard and alone because of being surrounded by fakes, liars, and phonies who come at me saying they want to be friends and its not true..they just want sex and they use the friendship wolf skin to get close in hopes of getting it..and getting pissy when they don't. Sometimes I wish I were born without a vagina because if that were true then the wolves would leave me alone and those left standing would be around for the right reasons instead of lurking and hanging around for the wrong ones.
I'm from the old school. It's a bad idea to mix sex and friendship because the chances of things getting messy and someone catching feelings is high. You want your friends to stay your friends? DONT FUCK THEM..cause then the lines get blurred real bad. Fuck a friend and they might be a friend after but they also might start acting like a girlfriend/boyfriend later without actually being one. That includes jealousy and possessiveness of you and acting catty with anyone who you might date later. Drama will ensue.
I don't r/l fuck anyone because the way I feel I will NOT just randomly fuck whoever and then things get messy in the aftermath. I am not going to do the most intimate things with people who don't care, and I don't fuck my friends. I keep everything separate.
It's incredibly sad that as a female I am alone and on guard more then I need to be because of the ongoing attitude that just being a normal friend is not enough and the penis has to be involved or else the friendship isn't gonna happen. What? Because I am a person and I enjoy talking to people and I desire to hang with those to have laughter and nice times with I have to spread my legs? Is the cost of friendship access to the pussy..no access, no friendship?
Sad. Very sad.
Guys sometimes wonder why women can be so chilly and aloof. THAT'S WHY. Because there are so many snakes slithering about trying to slide up our legs and clamp on. Guys approach and we wonder if the words he's saying are honest or friendly little lies told to take up a close parking spot in wait for that moment, that day, that night when a part of our normal armor falls off and he can take advantage...Laying in wait for a bad moment..a tragedy...a breakup to happen and we are crying and need a shoulder to cry on or a night out and had a few too many drinks and the thoughts are muddled. Then the emotional predator becomes the physical one and the true goal is revealed and finish line crossed.
Horrible. Absolutely horrible..but yes..some people are that selfish and self-gratifying...even if it means being an asshole and using others.
If you are a person and you DARE to use the word friendship with someone and you KNOW you really aren't their friend..you just started talking to them because you want to get laid...FUCK YOU..seriously..FUCK YOU..you fucking phony. You liar. You fake.Wolf in sheep's clothing. Predator is what you are. Don't be so selfish that you think only of yourself and what you want and lust for. Think of the other person. You are lying to them and wasting their time and being false because you want a stupid orgasm. For 3 seconds of bliss, you are sucking away at someone's emotions, life, and trust...because trust is part of friendship..as well as honesty..and if you aren't being honest, you are a lowlife lying jerk and low key predator...YES, YOU ARE.
For those of you that are my REAL friends..THANK YOU. From the deepest part of my heart..thank you. You are the real deal and I care about each one of you. You earned your places and you did it well. You know if you need me that I am here for you. I am grateful for each of you.
and for those reading who take the "predator" approach to fucking women.
what you are doing is wrong and offensive. If you have to lie about yourself and your feelings and intentions to get close to a woman to have the chance to fuck her...well..it doesn't say nice things about you and who you are, does it? Offering friendship when you know DAMN well that the offer is false. Offering something you don't feel just to get at something else that normal friendship doesn't include..shame on you. Don't offer something if you don't have it to give from the heart..if you don't mean it. It's wrong. All you are going to do is create more walls within her soul and make her more on guard and alone because she loses trust because of shit like that. Let that sink in...you being a predator is going to make another soul more alone then it has to be..all because your crotch caught fire and you zeroed in on that person to put the fire out.
Lies hurt.
They hurt, even more, when truth exposes them for being lies.
the soul you lie to then builds walls to protect itself from others like you later.
and with every lie told, with each predator and liar the wall gets higher and thicker until it's so high and so thick that the heart behind it finally just gets tired and pissed off and says "I quit" and gives up on friendships altogether. It doesn't want to try anymore. All because the word "friendship" went out of style and the term "friend zone" became something to be avoided.
I wish the term "friend zone" was a positive one instead of a negative one...and that friendship now meant you could hang out and not have sex...or that sex wasnt expected at some point. Sex shouldn't be an obligation during friendship.
Until attitudes change, I will just hang onto my real friends and avoid the false ones looking to get laid.
I am out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiSfTyrvJlg
basically its a song about a guy who broke up with a girl, he's got a new girlfriend now, the old ex calls and he's basically still heartbroken over her and feeling for her a little while the new girlfriend is in the next room.
I browsed the comments and one of the top comments was "no one wants to be the girl in the next room" (meaning the new girlfriend who has no clue her man is still in love with the old girlfriend) ...somewhere in the comments, someone also made the comment "no one wants to be in the dreaded friend zone either"
and that comment rubbed me all the wrong way.
It rubbed me wrong because, as a woman, I find it completely offensive that these days just being a normal friend is an awful thing and a simple meaningful platonic friendship is not enough. That "friendship" MUST include sex with those you call friends.
Isn't it awful and sad that a simple platonic friendship is so hated that a mean term has been created and tossed around to throw shade on it? FRIEND ZONE. OMFG...dont get friend zoned...ever..stay out of the friend zone. Its the modern version of the "cooties" that we knew as k**s..."don't get the cooties"...."don't get friend zoned" The friend zone is the new plague. Gotta avoid it. Only be friends with people who will fuck you at some point.
HOLY SHIT...WHERE DID ALL THE REAL PEOPLE WHO OFFER TRUE FRIENDSHIP GO???
WHY AND WHERE DID NORMAL FRIENDSHIP WARP INTO INCLUDED SEXUAL RELATIONS???
I am going to say something, and I want you readers to know this is coming strictly from a female point of view. I cannot and will not speak from a man's point of view and experiences you gentlemen might have had with women. As a woman, I can't tell you how being a woman means having to be CONSTANTLY on guard and alone because of being surrounded by fakes, liars, and phonies who come at me saying they want to be friends and its not true..they just want sex and they use the friendship wolf skin to get close in hopes of getting it..and getting pissy when they don't. Sometimes I wish I were born without a vagina because if that were true then the wolves would leave me alone and those left standing would be around for the right reasons instead of lurking and hanging around for the wrong ones.
I'm from the old school. It's a bad idea to mix sex and friendship because the chances of things getting messy and someone catching feelings is high. You want your friends to stay your friends? DONT FUCK THEM..cause then the lines get blurred real bad. Fuck a friend and they might be a friend after but they also might start acting like a girlfriend/boyfriend later without actually being one. That includes jealousy and possessiveness of you and acting catty with anyone who you might date later. Drama will ensue.
I don't r/l fuck anyone because the way I feel I will NOT just randomly fuck whoever and then things get messy in the aftermath. I am not going to do the most intimate things with people who don't care, and I don't fuck my friends. I keep everything separate.
It's incredibly sad that as a female I am alone and on guard more then I need to be because of the ongoing attitude that just being a normal friend is not enough and the penis has to be involved or else the friendship isn't gonna happen. What? Because I am a person and I enjoy talking to people and I desire to hang with those to have laughter and nice times with I have to spread my legs? Is the cost of friendship access to the pussy..no access, no friendship?
Sad. Very sad.
Guys sometimes wonder why women can be so chilly and aloof. THAT'S WHY. Because there are so many snakes slithering about trying to slide up our legs and clamp on. Guys approach and we wonder if the words he's saying are honest or friendly little lies told to take up a close parking spot in wait for that moment, that day, that night when a part of our normal armor falls off and he can take advantage...Laying in wait for a bad moment..a tragedy...a breakup to happen and we are crying and need a shoulder to cry on or a night out and had a few too many drinks and the thoughts are muddled. Then the emotional predator becomes the physical one and the true goal is revealed and finish line crossed.
Horrible. Absolutely horrible..but yes..some people are that selfish and self-gratifying...even if it means being an asshole and using others.
If you are a person and you DARE to use the word friendship with someone and you KNOW you really aren't their friend..you just started talking to them because you want to get laid...FUCK YOU..seriously..FUCK YOU..you fucking phony. You liar. You fake.Wolf in sheep's clothing. Predator is what you are. Don't be so selfish that you think only of yourself and what you want and lust for. Think of the other person. You are lying to them and wasting their time and being false because you want a stupid orgasm. For 3 seconds of bliss, you are sucking away at someone's emotions, life, and trust...because trust is part of friendship..as well as honesty..and if you aren't being honest, you are a lowlife lying jerk and low key predator...YES, YOU ARE.
For those of you that are my REAL friends..THANK YOU. From the deepest part of my heart..thank you. You are the real deal and I care about each one of you. You earned your places and you did it well. You know if you need me that I am here for you. I am grateful for each of you.
and for those reading who take the "predator" approach to fucking women.
what you are doing is wrong and offensive. If you have to lie about yourself and your feelings and intentions to get close to a woman to have the chance to fuck her...well..it doesn't say nice things about you and who you are, does it? Offering friendship when you know DAMN well that the offer is false. Offering something you don't feel just to get at something else that normal friendship doesn't include..shame on you. Don't offer something if you don't have it to give from the heart..if you don't mean it. It's wrong. All you are going to do is create more walls within her soul and make her more on guard and alone because she loses trust because of shit like that. Let that sink in...you being a predator is going to make another soul more alone then it has to be..all because your crotch caught fire and you zeroed in on that person to put the fire out.
Lies hurt.
They hurt, even more, when truth exposes them for being lies.
the soul you lie to then builds walls to protect itself from others like you later.
and with every lie told, with each predator and liar the wall gets higher and thicker until it's so high and so thick that the heart behind it finally just gets tired and pissed off and says "I quit" and gives up on friendships altogether. It doesn't want to try anymore. All because the word "friendship" went out of style and the term "friend zone" became something to be avoided.
I wish the term "friend zone" was a positive one instead of a negative one...and that friendship now meant you could hang out and not have sex...or that sex wasnt expected at some point. Sex shouldn't be an obligation during friendship.
Until attitudes change, I will just hang onto my real friends and avoid the false ones looking to get laid.
I am out.
5 年 前
I write that's mainly because I feel pretty much how I feel. This is a social network, in some way; but the time when I was curious about what the next girl or guy had to say are a memory.
And I've never been much in the game of getting laid for the sake of the moment. What for, anyway?
Just so you know, there's even male friends who think they can 'spur' you in the right social direction with a complex scheme of calling you with a female version of your name, or making anatomically impossible assumptions about you anal spaces, or any number of other surreal jokes of that kind.
(sarcasm) We live in real funny times, ain't that so? (/sarcasm)