Fetish v. Power Exchange
There are a lot of fetishes I enjoy. I could list them here, but you’ve probably already figured out that pretty much all of them deal with female domination in one way or another. The truth is that they don’t really matter. When it comes to the kinks I am a bit of a chameleon and am happy serving and being used as my dominant sees fit. I'm not saying that to be evasive, but when my partner has a strong desire it becomes my desire as well. When a fetish doesn't excite my partner then it doesn't excite me. It’s good to discuss limits, preferences, fantasies and all that, but what really does it for me is giving up my own wants to fulfill someone else’s. That’s why I’m so attracted to dominant females. She knows what she wants and you’re there to make it happen. No guessing, no fumbling, no trying to be something you’re not, just be obedient and follow Her lead.
I know we’re not all programmed the same way. I’ve found that if a female doesn’t have at least a little interest in being the dominant partner it’s a waste of time for both of us. You’ve heard of the expression, “top from the bottom”, well it works both ways. There is also bottoming from the top. When two submissives are together it’s kind of a fiasco. “What can I do to please you?” “No, what can I do to please you?” “No really, I want to make you feel good.” “No, let’s do what you want.” ..and so it goes. Someone has to be the one to take charge, and my preference is that the female does.
The next person I end up in a relationship with will already know that she’s dominant and will be looking for a submissive male or hopefully a male slave. I don’t want to have to convince anyone of anything as so many men have to convince their wives to try new and different things. Fetishes can be fun and erotic, but when you’re in a real relationship where power is exchanged just about everything takes on a kinky aspect to it. For example doing housework can be boring and tedious, but when you’re cleaning the kitchen in a pair of panties and your Mistress is behind you with a riding crop making sure you do a good job all of a sudden you look forward to doing the dishes. She tells you to go put gas in Her car, but she slips a plug in your ass before you leave. Now you’re going to get the job done with an element of sexual urgency.
Here's another example. I've mentioned in other posts that I enjoy being taken with a strapon, I get absolutely zilch out of fucking myself with dildo. It could be the exact same phallas, yet one feels alive and the other feels dead. I see a lot of dudes videoing themselves alone in their bedrooms shoving things up their asses, but I fail to see the eroticism. Maybe it's because it's their own idea, and they are just taking care of themselves. For me the thrill is when someone else has made the decision to fuck your ass and has the follow-through to make it happen on Her terms.
So in a nutshell it’s not necessarily the kinks in themselves that turn me on, it’s the power exchange. Dominants feel a rush of power, and submissives feel a rush of adrenaline. It works for everybody who is wired in those ways.
I know we’re not all programmed the same way. I’ve found that if a female doesn’t have at least a little interest in being the dominant partner it’s a waste of time for both of us. You’ve heard of the expression, “top from the bottom”, well it works both ways. There is also bottoming from the top. When two submissives are together it’s kind of a fiasco. “What can I do to please you?” “No, what can I do to please you?” “No really, I want to make you feel good.” “No, let’s do what you want.” ..and so it goes. Someone has to be the one to take charge, and my preference is that the female does.
The next person I end up in a relationship with will already know that she’s dominant and will be looking for a submissive male or hopefully a male slave. I don’t want to have to convince anyone of anything as so many men have to convince their wives to try new and different things. Fetishes can be fun and erotic, but when you’re in a real relationship where power is exchanged just about everything takes on a kinky aspect to it. For example doing housework can be boring and tedious, but when you’re cleaning the kitchen in a pair of panties and your Mistress is behind you with a riding crop making sure you do a good job all of a sudden you look forward to doing the dishes. She tells you to go put gas in Her car, but she slips a plug in your ass before you leave. Now you’re going to get the job done with an element of sexual urgency.
Here's another example. I've mentioned in other posts that I enjoy being taken with a strapon, I get absolutely zilch out of fucking myself with dildo. It could be the exact same phallas, yet one feels alive and the other feels dead. I see a lot of dudes videoing themselves alone in their bedrooms shoving things up their asses, but I fail to see the eroticism. Maybe it's because it's their own idea, and they are just taking care of themselves. For me the thrill is when someone else has made the decision to fuck your ass and has the follow-through to make it happen on Her terms.
So in a nutshell it’s not necessarily the kinks in themselves that turn me on, it’s the power exchange. Dominants feel a rush of power, and submissives feel a rush of adrenaline. It works for everybody who is wired in those ways.
9 年 前
