Labels

Are you dominant? Submissive? Switch?

Are you a slave? Master? Mistress?

Are you a kinkster? Fetishist? Vanilla? Sadist? Masochist?

Are you straight? Gay? Lesbian? Bi? Hetero flexible? Pansexual? Asexual? Bi-curious? Skoliosexual?

Are you a dyke? Butch? Queer? Faggot? Gay for pay? Beard?

Are a male? Female? Transexual? Transvestite? Androgynous? Gender fluid? Bi-gender?

Are you monogamous? Poly? Cuckold? Bull/Stud? Cuckoldress? Hotwife?

Are you a top? Bottom? Both?

Here's where I'm going with this. Labels can be helpful to clarify to others how we identify, but they can also be misleading and inaccurate. They can also be overly simplistic.

I received a message yesterday from a man who had read my profile on another site. He is an experienced gay Master and local to my area. He was very pushy about meeting me. Keep in mind all of my profiles on all sites clearly say "male seeking female". I do not seek out men, although people who have read my blog know that I have had bisexual bottom experiences. I think that's why he messaged me and was so persistent.

His profile had very little on it other than a few pictures. There was one picture of him dressed in leather and he looked like one of the Village People. He also included several pics of his cock....yeah it was big but too damn hairy. It appears that personal grooming isn't one of his strengths.

Anyway, this guy tells me that he could dominate me better than any woman ever could. He went on to tell me that I was lying about my sexuality and that I'm in denial. His bottom line was that I have sucked cock and taken cock up my ass; therefore I'm gay. When I told him I wasn't interested, the insults started coming. I took them for a few minutes, but eventually wound up blocking him.

So this morning I've been going over it all in my head, and some self-doubt has crept in. I am not attracted to men. I do not seek out men. I'm not interested in a male relationship other than friendship. Yet in certain circumstances in my past submitting to a man has been pleasurable, especially in the presence of a female. However, my cock always goes limp when I interact with a male. It's not the sex, it's the submission that I enjoy.

I identify as straight with bisexual bottom experience. In a nutshell, I am looking for and prefer woman. Yet my history tells me that under the right circumstances I will service men.

Confusion has set in.